Romero suffers from post-traumatic stress. “My wife asks me … ‘Why don’t you talk to me about it?” he says. “How am I supposed to tell my wife that I’m sorry I didn’t die and two younger guys could have made it home? How do you explain that?”
Romero’s silence and bouts of anger are not uncommon in military marriages, particularly those where a spouse is dealing with PTSD.
“There is a level of stress on wounded warrior couples that seems ten-fold what a normal marriage bears,” said Noel Meador, Executive Director of Stronger Families, creator of a marriage training program called Oxygen.
The USO recently teamed up with Stronger Families to provide the workshops free to wounded, ill or injured troops. It’s a way to tackle tough issues in a non-threatening environment.
Stronger Families coaches work with groups of about 25 couples, teaching them practical skills for improving communication, resolving conflict, rekindling romance and finding new hope.
“The ability for a spouse to empathize is tremendous,” said Meador, “and that’s really what we’re trying to reinforce… If we can help give couples the tools they need to communicate how they are feeling, we can help them attain a mutual understanding of the problem and work together to diffuse the anger safely. Eventually couples can come up with an action plan to move forward in their relationships.”
In partnership with Stronger Families, the USO hosted three Oxygen seminars last year and plans to host six more this year. The workshops are held near military hospitals, warrior transition units and wounded warrior battalions. - Joseph Andrew Lee, USO Staff Writer
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