By Missouri National Guard
One Missouri National Guard couple provides new meaning to the word team. Trisha and David Katzfey, both first sergeants and full-time soldiers, find balance with their different but complementary leadership styles.
Trisha and David have each served three overseas deployments. For them, their second deployment was unique.
“We went on a second deployment together and ended up getting engaged during the deployment,” Trisha said. “I had to come home for emergency leave, and he got to come home with me. On Christmas Eve of 2009, when we were home together, we got engaged. And it’s been wonderful ever since.”
The two just celebrated their tenth anniversary. They have three kids together, ages 4, 6 and 9, and they admit that it can be a challenge to manage the household while both of them are working full-time for the National Guard. Trisha said they traditionally mobilize for different missions in October and December.
“Sometimes we have to leave our kids for the needs of the Army,” she said.
Though the demands of working full-time for the National Guard present the couple with occasional challenges, the Katzfeys believe their supervisors understand their burdens and work well with them. David recently returned from a school for professional development.
“The first day I got home, she got called up to in-process soldiers for a state emergency mission in St. Louis,” David said. “But everyone bends over backwards to help each other out during deployments and state emergency duties.”
Though National Guard service has put a strain on the couple at times, they always manage to make it work.
“We take advantage of every minute we’re home with the kids and make the most of it,” David said. “A lot of friends and family have reached out to help with our family operations. It works out very well.”
Since both David and Trisha are senior leaders who manage several soldiers, the two are in a unique position to help each other. Trisha has been in the National Guard for over 20 years and works full-time as a human resources noncommissioned officer. On drill weekends, she is the first sergeant for 1137th Military Police Company. David, who joined 18 years ago, is a full-time technician and first sergeant with Headquarters and Headquarters Company (HHC), 140th Regional Training Institute. They bounce ideas off each other to hone their skills.
“Discussing issues helps us to make better determinations with what’s going on in our individual units,” Trisha said. “Since he is such a great operational leader, I ask him about how to respond to individual incidents. Since I am more on the administrative side with my full-time position, he is able to ask me human resources questions that he may not understand. It makes for a great team.”
They agree that their relationship makes them a stronger, nimbler team at home and more effective in their leadership roles.
-This story was originally published on NationalGuard.mil. It has been edited for USO.org.
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